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Marriage Today
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Jeremiah 29:11 (NKJV) For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
You have a 100% chance for success when you get God's truth into your marriage. We offer complimentary private sessions. See details below. A marriage cannot grow beyond the emotional health of each spouse. Your relationship with your spouse will never exceed your individual emotional health. My spouse and I entered marriage with deep emotional wounds and family dysfunction. We were like two porcupines trying to love each other. The closer we got, the more we hurt each other. My husband, Cody, and I were previously married before. I was married for 17 years with no children and had numerous affairs in my first marriage. My boyfriend of 7 years in my first marriage died and caused me to wake up to my bad behavior and broken marriage. When I married Cody I had found Jesus (AbiYah) and was trying to seek a more biblical way of marriage but I was making the same mistakes as my first marriage minus having affairs. I was very dominate, controlling and I would henpeck my husband to death. It almost destroyed our marriage. I didn't even realize the damage that I was doing to him or our child. I had a feminist mindset or perhaps even worse a superiority complex toward him. We were separated for two years and during that time I would cry out to God to fix my husband. I realized my pleas and prayers were not working and the separation was taking a toll on our child. I finally started asking God to fix me, to heal me, to show me what I was doing wrong and help me be the wife He wanted me to be and to restore our marriage and keep our child from growing up in a broken home. I didn't want to repeat the mistakes of my past or parents.
Hosea 4:6 (NKJV) My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.
Now my husband wasn't a saint either and I realized many of his actions toward me were defense mechanisms toward my bad behavior. There were many times I provoked him to anger and physical abuse. He financially abandoned us ( my greatest FEAR). He was a really good father in many ways despite growing up with his single mother and fatherless home. He wanted to be a good husband but his childhood wounds, broken marriage of 20 years, family dysfunction + mine = heartbreak, hurts, bad behavior and more. We didn't know how to communicate with each other. I would scream, berate and get angry and he would retreat, drink and give me the silent treatment and leave. It was a vicious cycle we were in. Thankfully, God healed us of our emotional scars, childhood trauma and woundedness. Today we have the ability to do things that our emotional wounds once prevented. We have an amazing marriage with a real true love for each other. Going on 15 years strong, I have a husband who would do anything for me, provides for me and respects me and my husband has a wife who respects him, acknowledges him, lets him lead our family and meets his needs. We are the best of friends who love to be together and we want to share with you these valuable skills and resources that God showed us. Our greatest asset is our prayer life with each other and to God and our family prayer life. Seeking God in all our ways, ways we never thought possible. We want to share this hope with you. If you research the statistics, most couples who attend marriage counseling end up divorcing. We call this marriage cancelling. We love the Marriage Today Ministry and their program and want to share with you the success to healing and marriage restoration. We have to get the right knowledge in our heart and treat our marriage like a career that we want to succeed in.
Isaiah 54:5 (NKJV) For your Maker is your husband, The Lord of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth.
There are ten things you should be able to do if you are emotionally healthy:
1. Openly express both physical and verbal affection to the satisfaction of your spouse. This means hugs and gentle touch as well as praise.
2. Empathize with others and focus on their needs and desires—especially those of your spouse. This means listening, as well as putting yourself in another’s shoes.
3. Communicate honestly and openly in a gracious manner. This means being able to talk about your feelings.
4. Confront your spouse or others with complaints in a timely and gracious manner. In other words, communicating with honesty about something that has gone wrong, rather than being angry, withdrawn, or passive-aggressive.
5. Receive complaints or corrections without being defensive or hostile. This means you are open to input from someone else.
6. Take responsibility for your behavior and apologize, when necessary, with sincerity and grace. This means accepting that you can be wrong.
7. Serve and give to others—including your spouse—without expecting anything in return. This means you are able to do something for others even if it’s never reciprocated.
8. Process anger, offenses, and disappointments in a timely and gracious manner. Bad things happen. When they do, you can deal with being imperfect people in an imperfect world. You can work through it. Life does not form you, your response to life forms you.
9. Be vulnerable and reveal weakness without fear or shame. This means being able to pray with your spouse. It means admitting when you need help.
10. Be joyful and faith-filled in the midst of difficulty. This means seeing the good in opportunities, circumstances, and people. It means trusting God rather than becoming cynical, fatalistic, or depressed.
Do these abilities describe you? If not, you may have some emotionally unhealthy areas in your heart. Honestly, I didn’t have any of those abilities when my spouse and I were first married—and it damaged our relationship. Until God restored me to good health, our marriage would never have grown beyond my limitations. The Holy Spirit is powerful and can repair the places that are broken inside us. He knows exactly what’s wrong. When we understand that we’re damaged and give Him permission to fix us, He does. That’s exceedingly good news. If you need to improve your emotional health, ask God to begin healing you. He’ll help you grow into a place where you can claim all ten of the abilities above. It will result in a stronger, healthier marriage. Join us on this healing journey with the Marriage on the Rock material. Hear testimonies and gain hope that most marriages can heal. You have 100% chance for success when you get God's truth into your marriage. Make the commitment today to repair and restore your marriage.
Ecclesiastes 4:9: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?"
Consider joining us for HOPE today! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vinnCOOCnXY
Come join us for an informative private marriage restoration journey. Our sessions can include testimonials, books, videos, pdfs, discussions and Q& A and one on one support. Our expertise include topics such as:
Session 1 - The Most Important Issue in Marriage
Session 2 - The Laws of Priority and Pursuit
Session 3 - The Laws of Possession and Purity
Session 4 - A Man's Needs
Session 5 - A Woman's Needs
Session 6 - The Power of Positive Communication
Session 7 - Financial Management in Marriage Session
8 - Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage
Bonus Session 1 - Destructive Husbands and Wives
Bonus Session 2 - Parents: Past and Present
Bonus Session 3 - Raising Great Children as You Build a Great Marriage
Bonus Session 4 - Foundations for Successful Blended Families
Trauma, Abuse, Addictions, we can help. There is nothing God can't restore. We offer complimentary private sessions. Please email marriage@yisrael.ca for more details. We are not affiliated with any church, denomination or religious organization. We are certified leaders with the Marriage Today ministry. We have only been trained and equipped on marriages between a man and woman.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
Remember, we offer private complimentary sessions. Join Cody & Tonya Dahl as we learn to successfully journey into biblical principles for marriage restoration. Donations welcomed.
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